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Searching for truth: the voices in my head

I turned 41 before I realized that the voices in my head could eventually become a problem, or the solution to productivity, creativity and how I look at life.

Most of the time, I was having a conversation with myself about good and interesting things. At the same time, it didn’t feel as if I had any control.

This is what usually happened:

I was out walking, and I was talking to myself about the weather, about nature and about animals (that I was hoping to see). All good. Sometimes I was having a conversation about new business ideas and creativity. The voices would never stop. I was talking to myself constantly. I was telling myself stories, like the cold November rain, and life after marketing.

The conversations continued

The stories I was telling myself were fascinating. I was enjoying them, every single one of them. But, the questions I was asking, and the answers I was saying out loud inside; it was taking too much space and I noticed that it was draining my energy.

I wasn’t just walking for 30 minutes, I was having a constant conversation with myself the whole time. I ended up being exhausted – not from walking…

One day I decided it had to stop.

My energy was at an all time low. I could harldy get anything done. I was thinking that it would be impossible to get a yes every single time if I kept talking to myself. At the same time I was afraid that if the voices stopped (both the good conversations and the negative ones) it would turn me into a different person; it could hurt creativity, my productivity and the way I’ve been thinking about life.

It was time to surrender

The voices in my head talked about everything, both good and bad things. The fascinating stories didn’t stop. I was asking myself if I was going to let them talk, and keep listening, and if I should listen to all the positive and the negative? Or try to do something about it – it felt like I wasn’t in control.

It was like I was at a coffee shop, listening to people talk or as if I was eavesdropping on someones conversation on the phone – only that the voices were all mine.

At one point I told myself to just surrender and just say yes to whatever happened, no matter what the voices told me. At that time, things started to change. My focus switched, my energy was at an all time high, and I’ve been more producitve than ever.

The voices keep talking. I keep listening. But, they’re part of who I am and how I create my stories.

11 responses to “Searching for truth: the voices in my head”

  1. Hey!

    Saw this on Triberr and thought of leaving a comment. The title really caught my attention. A great read and kept me thinking.

    So, thank you for sharing! Seriously — this deserve more than a share!

  2. Danny Brown says:

    This is a really interesting subject to me, mate. More often than not, we hear of “voices in our heads” and immediately think of people as being crazy.

    But why? Why is it any different than giving yourself a prep talk in front of the mirror before a big sales meeting, or boxing match, or even proposing to your partner?

    It’s the same thing, just a different manifestation. So why the funny looks?

    For my own part, I often find the experience you talk about happening when I’m super tired and have either just nodded off, or am about to. I then find myself having all sorts of weird conversations with myself – on occasion, my wife too!

    I see them as unfinished business for the day. They’re a release – it can be for stress, for unspoken thoughts, or for unleashing creativity (much like your own example).

    And they’re more than welcome. 🙂

    • Hey Danny

      I keep talking to myself all day, but not when I’m very focused and “busy”. Very often it happens when I’m relaxed.

      As you described, I see them as unfinished business as well. I keep thinking about things that happened earlier, or things that are going to happen, and I keep talking to myself about what I should have done, or what I’m going to do or create new stories.

  3. Christo says:

    Hi Jens. Interesting and insightful article. A guy called Stephen Norval once went though the same experience. He also heard the “voices in his head.” One day he asked: “who are these voices?” He concluded it was him. He then asked: if it is me talking, who is listening? He concluded again – him. After researching this for a long time, he has concluded that there is a distinct difference between the voices, and himself. The “voices” is our minds chatter, and boils down to “who we think we are.” (And this can be – although interesting and not to be avoided – confusing and distracting.)

    However, who we think we are, is very different to who we truly are.

    When you become, still, quiet and aware (of yourself and your voices) you get a lot more insight about who you truly are. Who you are is amazing. Who you are is unique. Who you are is creative, fascinated and fascinating…. And it is not who you think you are. It is who you are. There is a difference.

    I truly wish for you, me and the whole world to become distinctly more aware of who we truly are.

    • Danny Brown says:

      “Who you are is creative, fascinated and fascinating…. And it is not who you think you are. It is who you are. There is a difference.”

      Plus one for this statement. 🙂

    • Hi Christo

      I have never heard of Stephen Norval, but the things you wrote is very interesting. I might have to search and find out more about this man.

      Thank you!

  4. Hi Jens, You are a brilliant person and smart enough to realize you should listen to yourself. Often when we ignore the voices in our heads we head down the wrong path. Who knows us better than ourselves?

    We need to make time and quiet to be able to hear what we have to say. Thanks for the reminder.

  5. Angela says:

    Sounds like the voices in your head have a great impact in your life,that is part of human nature.

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