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Everything that happens is connected to you

Life is precious. We should live like every day is our last day on earth. Make it special. Make it fantastic. But we should also live like every single day is our first day on our exquisite planet. We should explore, and find new paths and new questions.

I love to enjoy what life has to offer. And, I truly believe that good will always win, no matter how much bad we experience. So, with this in mind, I enjoy reading books that can help me understand the world we live in and how people act, and why they live their lives the way they do. When reading, I learn a lot about myself as well.

A few days ago, I finished reading a very interesting e-book by Jonathan Figaro. The title of the e-book is Six Stupid Things People Do To Mess Up Their Lives (not an affiliate link). He uses experiences from his own life, combined with stories from famous people, to make us understand what we should be doing to live fantastic lives.

The e-book is brilliant.

I’m going to provide you with a few examples of what you’ll learn if you decide to read it.


I don’t believe in circumstances. I didn’t before I started reading the e-book, and I still don’t. It’s no fun believing in circumstances, and it’s no incentive to take action.

Let me give you an example where Jonathan discusses a quote from George Bernard Shaw.

“The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and if they can’t find them, they make them.” Where you are now is solely based on the choices you have made. No one else thinks your thoughts, feels your emotions, or acts your actions. As the saying goes, You cannot hire anyone to do your push-ups for you. Where you go from here is based on the choices you make today.

Life is about taking action, and making the right choices.

The secret shouldn’t be a secret

I have read the famous book called the secret. And I was stunned that this was actually a secret to so many people. The book was awesome, but this shouldn’t be a secret to anyone. And, reading Six Stupid Things People Do To Mess Up Their Lives, makes me think about how important this so called secret really is.

American psychologist and philosopher William James classically statement, “Human beings can alter their lives by altering their attitude of minds”. Most people don’t think about their attitude; instead, they are poised to react to any stimuli they encounter. There are so many human beings taking a narrow, darkened attitude toward life, fulfilling the prophecy of their attitude. Your world can be bright with hope and passion, or dark and lonely.

Good will always win. A positive attitude towards life will always make your life a good life. I believe that this is also true when it comes to business and marketing. If you’re passionate, work hard, and enjoy what you’re doing, you will always be successful. You need to be persistent, because it will take time.

The funeral

I almost never think about death. I always think about life, and what I’m going to do to make each day a fantastic day. But sometimes, thinking about death, makes us understand life and how we should live it.

I’m working at a college, so the story about Rose really caught my attention.

One week after graduation, Rose died peacefully in her sleep. Over 2,000 college students attended her funeral in tribute to the wonderful woman who taught by example that it’s never too late to be all you can possibly be.

When you close your eyes and look into the future at your own funeral, what do you see? I know. I don’t see 2,000 college students either. That’s why you and me should start making a difference today.

I highly recommend that you read Jonathan Figaro’s Six Stupid Things People Do To Mess Up Their Lives (not an affiliate link).

Remember, everything that happens is connected to you and the choices you make.

59 responses to “Everything that happens is connected to you”

  1. Rachel Lavern says:

    I will have to check out Jonathan Figaro’s book. I firmly believe that my choices got me to where I am and they can take me to where I want to be! That is powerful if we look at it in the positive!

    • jens says:

      Hi Rachel,

      A lot of people are not doing what they should be doing, because they are not firmly believers that it’s all about making the right choices and that it’s all up to us to take 100% responsibility for our lives. It’s great that you’re a firm believer, me too 🙂

      The book was brilliant, and very easy to read.


    • jonathan figaro says:

      Hey Rachel,

      Please do. You’ll enjoy every bit. A free chapter is given to all who want to check it out. Keep on making those great choices Rachel. They will serve you greatly in the future.

  2. Adrienne says:

    Wonderful post Jens and I love this topic as you probably know.

    Having already heard my story, you know why I already live every day to the fullest. Sure, I might not always be out doing some really exciting things all the time but I love working at home, helping other people, building my business and relationships online. I absolutely love it!

    I never finish a conversation with a loved one and not tell them how much they mean to me. Life’s just too short and you never know what tomorrow will bring.

    I live in a very small condominium complex and have been here for over 21 years now. Just recently within a two week period of time we lost two long-time residents very unexpectedly. It was a total shock to our very small knit community. Just another reminder that you never know when your time will come so live each day to the fullest.

    If life isn’t going your way, make it! It’s all about choices and it’s our choice to decide how we want to live, think, be and act towards others. You truly can be anyone you want to be, it’s all up to you.

    Thanks for the message and that sounds like a really great book. Might have to check that one out.

    Have a fun weekend.


    • jens says:

      Hi Adrienne,

      Yes. I was actually thinking about you while reading this book 🙂

      You’re a great example of what we should be doing in order to be successful online. It’s all about helping, by taking action and making the right choices (by doing what we love and are passionate about).


      • jonathan figaro says:


        I would like to say thanks for the opportunity!!!!! I’m glad my book resonated with you. I truly am. Your a stand up guy and I know you will achieve anything you desire. Thanks again.

        P.S- My next book which is a novel is yours!!

    • jonathan figaro says:

      Hey Adrienne,

      I learned that death is apart of life. Were all souls who are experiencing life. Living it to the fullest is the only thing she should ever be doing. Because if were not getting busy living. Then were getting busy dying. Live everyday like our last. It’s the only way to never regret LIFE! Thanks for stopping by.

      • Adrienne says:

        Hi Jonathan,

        I do live every single day of my life to the fullest. Because of my past experiences I know how important it truly is.

        Thanks for your input and for sharing this with us all. I’m one very happy lady for sure! 🙂


  3. Daniel says:

    An interesting article that helped me a lot.

  4. Gagan Arora says:

    nice share, feelings are really need for every one

  5. Bill Dorman says:

    They’ll be lucky to fill a phone booth at my funeral……..

    Somebody won’t do pushups for you; I thought that is why you hired a trainer?

    If you look at something as tragic as the holocaust and they talk w/ the survivors; in the absolute worst of times and conditions they were able to find little things to bring joy to keep them going on, living for one more day. The human spirit can be pretty strong, especially with the right attitude.

    I would like to check out that book; is it in English, otherwise you might have to read it to me………:).

    Good day sir and glad to see your post has it’s ‘juice’ back.

    • jens says:

      Hey Bill,

      Yes, the book is in English, and I think it’s $9.99 or something close. You can get a free chapter from the link I added in the post.

      I think you’re wrong about your funeral. Remember, online friendship matters. And in the future it will be even more important. And when it comes to online friendship, you’re the king 🙂


    • jonathan figaro says:

      Hey Bill,

      Yes, the book is in English. You can just click the link under my comments and it will lead you straight there. Im glad you enjoyed the read. I created this to help/inspire millions and I believe it will do just that.

  6. John Davis says:

    A great post – and a reminder I definitely needed. I’ll make sure I check out that book, it looks interesting.

    • jens says:

      Hi John,

      Too many people are just waiting for some miracle to happen. Life is so much more fun when we understand that we are in charge of our own destiny. Just do it, the old slogan from Nike is still the best one 🙂

      Thanks a lot for stopping by.


    • jonathan figaro says:

      Hello John,

      See you on my website then bro. Have a great and illustrious weekend.

  7. Eddie Gear says:

    Wow Jens, you just got the thing for putting words together that mesmerizes readers. I will take a look at that book. Probably add it to my wishlist of books to buy.

    • jens says:

      Hey Eddie,

      Thanks a lot for your kind words. The book is short, about 92 pages, and the price is $9.99 – I learned a lot, and it was fast and easy to read. Great book 🙂


    • jonathan figaro says:

      Hey Eddie,

      Thanks eddie. The compliment is more than enough. Enjoy the book bro.

  8. Pam Sheraton says:

    Very interesting post and I well needed reminder, we’re too busy chasing the life around us that we forget living our life to the fullest. But I don’t think there’s only 6 six things that we do to ruin our lives, it’s more like an endless list right? 😉

    • jonathan figaro says:


      I can only agree. There has to be more than just six. It’s probably leads to infinity. But then the book would never end…lol.

    • jens says:

      Hey Pam,

      There are definitively a lot more than 6 things, but the 6 things that Jonathan writes about are probably some of the most important ones though. The problem with chasing life around us, is that we miss the small things, and it’s hard to actually understand what we want for ourselves. Many times we end up wanting what everybody else seems to want without even thinking about if we want the same or not.

      Thanks a lot for your comment Pam.


  9. Ana says:

    Great and thought-provoking post, Jens. Yes, we should not waste a minute – not only on things, but also on emotions that don’t make us feel good. Easier said than done, though.

    • jonathan figaro says:

      Hey Ana,

      Your right. Procrastination leads no where. It’s about working now and creating at this very moment. Its all that ever counts. Have an amazing weekend.

    • jens says:

      Hi Ana,

      I’m not good at not wasting time on emotions that don’t make me feel good, but you’re absolutely right. I think a lot about how to spend my time, but no matter how much I think about it, I always end up on the couch watching TV every single evening – I think I actually need it:)


  10. Paulie says:

    It goes another way around, everything has a consequence. Good or bad there is an outcome if you commit or do something.
    One goes as well, everything has a purpose.
    We learn in every move we make.
    It takes one to understand the situation to achieve peace.

    • jonathanfigaro says:

      Hey Paulie,

      We do learn from every move we make. Its up to us to learn from our mistakes.

    • jens says:

      Hi Paulie,

      Everything do have a consequence, and good will always win. I remember when one of my friends borrowed my car a few days ago. I didn’t think much about it, but when he came back with the car and had washed it on the inside and the outside just to say thank you, it was just awesome. There are many ways to say thank you, and it’s all up to us to do so and take action.

      Thanks a lot for stopping by and leaving a comment.


  11. James H says:

    This Jonathan Figaro’s book surely looks pretty interesting, the name itself has caught my attention ‘Six Stupid Things People Do To Mess Up Their Lives’. I have been a champion in messing up my life..:)! i think this book is a must read for me.

    • jonathanfigaro says:

      Hey James,

      Check put the book. Trust me. You’ll love it!!!

    • jens says:

      Hi James,

      We all keep messing up, most of us do it in just small details, but we keep messing up. Jonathan’s book was great by showing so many interesting examples from his life of what people did in order to turn things around, and stop messing up. It’s a lot easier to understnd what’s going on when we read how other people are doing it. Great book, and I highly recommend it.

      Thanks a lot for stopping by and leaving a comment, I really appreciate it.


  12. NIKKI says:

    Hi Jens,
    Very Nice article. Though these are basic things that everyone is supposed to know and follow but its these that we so often miss or neglect and that’s what, i suppose, differentiates a good blogger from a great one! Thank you for this lovely piece of information.

    • jens says:

      Hi Nikki,

      I completely agree with you. Most of this stuff should be basic things that we should know, but because of the world we live in (most of us seems to be always stressed out and rushing things), we can’t focus on what we really need to be focusing on. I’m so greatful when I meet people who truly understand the power of slow, and what’s important in life and then do their best to teach people how.


  13. Carolyn says:

    Hi Jens, Great post. Your positive attitude shines through your blog, which is one of the many reasons it’s so successful!

    Unfortunately I have witnessed many friends who have messed up their lives. I haven’t read Mr. Figaro’s book yet, but am very interested to do so and to share it with my daughters.

    From what I have observed, the six ways people mess up their lives are:

    Marrying the wrong spouse
    Substance abuse
    Not appreciating what you have
    Not believing in yourself
    Not learning from your mistakes
    Being unkind to others

    I am looking forward to reading the book. I wonder if there is any overlap with my six. Even if they are identical, which I doubt, it would still be great to show my girls how to avoid the pitfalls in life.

    Thanks so much, Jens, for another informative and uplifting post!

    • jens says:

      Hi Carolyn,

      The book is short and brilliant, just the way I like it 🙂

      There is an overlap of your six, like not believing in yourself and being unking to others are very very important ways to mess up. Good will always bring good, that’s my motto.

      Great to see you back from vacation.


  14. Samuel says:

    Hello Jens,
    I really admire and appreciate your firm and well fabricated perception towards life.Your profound description about the “Six Stupid Things People Do To Mess Up Their Lives” e-book makes me really curious to read it,I do agree that our today is always responsible for our tomorrow,whatever we think,plan,decide and choose today,will shape up our future on that basis.Positive attitude can make our lives good and fun.Thank you for sharing such a great and interesting post with us.

    Good Luck and God Bless!!

    With Regards!
    Samuel Joshua.

    • jens says:

      Hi Samuel,

      Absolutely, we shape our future on the basis you describe.

      What I really love about the book is that Jonathan didn’t only write about what you should be doing in order to have success (like most people do), he turned everything around and is focusing on the things we’re doing in order to mess everything up 🙂

      Thanks a lot for your kind words.


  15. Cathy says:

    I haven’t read Jonathan’s book, but I am interested as it sounds excellent. Living as if it were our last day on earth puts everything into clear perspective. What is important shines through and the rest fades into the background. It sounds like he comes at the information from a different angle, which is always refreshing. You’ve convinced me it’s a good read! Thank you for sharing.

    • jens says:

      Hi Cathy,

      I really enjoyed reading Jonathan’s book. It’s “only” 92 pages, but it’s packed with personal stories, stories that it’s easy to remember and to understand. He’s a brilliant writer, and I can’t wait for his novel to be published.

      Thanks a lot for your comment.


  16. Tara D. says:

    I do believe everything that happens in our lives is not by chance.Everything
    has it’s own purpose in life…i’m very curious to your book.can’t wait to read it.very nice post.

    • jens says:

      Hi Tara,

      Yes, I also believe that nothing happens by chance. And it’s a brilliant attitude to have towards life, because it means that we are in control.

      Thanks a lot for the feedback.


  17. Mike says:

    Even I like reading such books and this ebook also looks interesting. Thanks for sharing the ebook link. Even I feel that attitude is important and Life depends on choices we make.

    • jens says:

      Hi Mike,

      I really enjoy reading self development books as well. I have read some of Anthony Robbins, and they really makes me think about what I should be doing different with my life.

      Thanks a lot for your comment.


      • Jim says:

        This looks like an interesting book. Even I like Anthony Robbins a lot and I feel he is a good motivator. My Favorite Anthony Robbins books is ‘Awaken the Giant withing you’.

  18. Laura says:

    It was a total shock to our very small knit community. Just another reminder that you never know when your time will come so live each day to the fullest.

    • jens says:

      Hi Laura,

      What was a total shock? I’m not sure if I understand.

      Anyways. I completely agree that we should live each day to the fullest 🙂

      Thanks a lot for your comment.


  19. The secret shouldn’t be a secret! I totally agree. To be clear, I think they didn’t put enough emphasis on the fact that you have to take some pretty decisive (even if you don’t know what you’re doing) action. But hey, I’m not a book critic.

    I’m so aligned with this though. I try to train myself to take opposing views than the “herd” as I’ve seen over and over again, the herd likes to limit themselves. Circumstance, as we all know, can have its limitations (being born in third world countries, etc) but even then so, people have some pretty extraordinary stories of going from absolutely nothing, to absolutely awesome.

    But, to a large extent, we’re controlling most of the outcomes in our lives and learning HOW to do that, both in terms of strategy, and in terms of getting your freaking head straight, seems to be the winning position!

    JENS! Love the new layout. It fits! It fits! It’s perfect.

  20. Julia Serafina says:

    I am a huge believer in having a positive attitude toward both people and life and taking responsibility for the role that I play in making my life the best one that I can. Life is not a dress rehearsal…this is it…it is happening right now…and it is the very choices that we make daily, which impact the quality of our own existence, including those around us. So many of us are consumed with being busy that we fail to stop and take stock of the circumstances that we have created, including what we could change in order to take the steps to build the sort of life that would really make us happy. Mahatma Gandhi’s “Be the change you want to see in the world”, seems totally appropriate, in this moment. For me, a key ingredient is awareness…and holding to a standard that I will keep nurturing that awareness so I can always be a better person, no matter if sometimes, I fall short of my expectations. A big thank you, Jens for writing this feel good post and alerting us to Jonathan Figaro’s book which highlights a positive message for all mankind….the more inspiration that goes around, the better…

  21. BlessedBklynite says:

    I totally agree, and i’m not just saying this because I am a Christian, but reading the Bible has taught me things about myself that i just didn’t want to know. and I can read jus tone verse every day for a week and learn new things every day from it. But I read a lot too, I currently have four bookshelves and they are not all filled with different versions of the Bible…LOL. Fiction and non-fiction. Believe it or not, Stephen King is (and i’m trying to make it a “was”) my favorite Author. 🙂

  22. Debby says:

    They say that everything happens for a reason and is connected to you. You were the one who decides and do your fate. There’s no such thing as destiny. You were the one who makes your destiny and nothing was being planned.

  23. Daniel says:

    Very interesting article from which I learned many useful and interesting things that I did not know until now. Like every time you write about many interesting things and I am very pleased with shared your site. This way you always learn new things.

  24. Daniel says:

    The article contains many useful and interesting information. I like very much. Expect new and interesting topics from you soon.

  25. Print-Print says:

    I love this post, you’re absolutely right – you have to live in the present and make every day count. Time is very very precious so the thought of wasting it really bugs me. You must work in order to live, but don’t forget the live part, a lot of friends of mine work 80+ hours a week in order to pay for their big houses and expensive cars, if your working this hard then you are not living. Fence off time for life experiences with family and friends or before you know it – it will be too late.

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