I am writing this, as I’m watching the ocean and a beach from the top of a mountain. I’m using a notebook and a real pen, writing, looking at the sea, only listening to birds and the sound of the wind messing with the trees behind me.
When I’m outside the office, I do things a bit differently. Sometimes I end up writing a different kind of love story, and other times I end up thinking about a dream that didn’t happen.
Now, looking at the ocean, without a human being in sight, I’m thinking about blog comments. I have no idea why, but I’m thinking about how important they are, and why we care about them in the first place.
I used to get more comments
I used to get more comments. There are many reasons why I used to get more of them, but one reason is that I don’t have the time to connect with as many people as I used to. I love connecting with people, and I really enjoy reading blogs, but since I started my life as a solopreneur, I have to focus on my clients and the vegetarian festival.
I really enjoy comments on what I write. Lately, I have received some very interesting comments to a post I wrote about the most important part of customer service. Some people didn’t agree with me, and that was great. I probably used a bad example, I do that a lot. But, using a bad example, stirred emotions for some of my readers, and started an interesting conversation.
I have written a post about the 12 best reasons why you should comment on blogs, and as I am writing this, it has 128 comments. That’s not bad. But, why do we want comments? I’m proud of the post, and and I really wanted all the comments, but this is probably the first time I have asked myself the question.
Why do we want comments?
I can think of three reasons why I want comments on my blog posts:
- I really enjoy feedback
- I feel that I’m popular
- It’s a way to be social
I write about marketing, and personal experiences with my business, and sometimes I write about whatever comes to my mind. But, even though I tell myself that I write because I love to write, I really enjoy the fact that you are reading it. I would probably still be writing if nobody read a single word. But, the more people who are reading it, the easier it is to write. That’s how I feel about it. And, the more feedback I get, no matter if it’s positive feedback or negative feedback, the more I want to write.
The reason I write, it doesn’t have anything to do with trying to be popular, or trying to be successful. But, I believe that it’s in our nature that we enjoy being popular. I’m not talking about being a celebrity or known all across the world. I’m talking about the feeling that some people like you, or like what you’re doing. It’s a feeling of support.
When I write, I’m usually at the office. I create many of my (mental) notes when I’m offline. But, when I’m writing and publishing my posts, I’m usually inside, all alone. I’m thinking about you, and how you’re going to react (emotionally) when you’re reading my story. I want to reach out and talk to you, not just the regular feedback, but I want to get to know you a little better. Writing is a social process, even though it’s something I do when I am all alone.